Most of the guys here in my tank are aware of this blog. We have some questions that we'd like to ask and would really enjoy receiving any comments or feedback that you have.
1. We are in jail. How and why do things in our tank constantly come up missing or stolen? (Editor's note - I think someone addressed this in a blog comment when the toothpaste disappeared)
2. Why do we have to eat the same food over and over and over?
3. How do you feel about inmates receiving a furlough to witness the birth of their child?
4. Why can't we get real food if we have money on our books?
5. Why don't we receive conjugal visits?
6. In what room do they keep the keg?
7. Should homosexual inmates be kept separate from straight inmates?
8. Should inmates incarcerated for sexual crimes against children be kept in the same areas as normal inmates?
9. Where are all the real women these days?
10. Is there anything called love?
11. Do you think there should be more daily activities in jail?
12. Should inmates have access to computers? The internet?
13. Do you think that jail/prison should be used as a "scare tactic" to keep kids out of trouble? For example, young kids could be forced to spend the night in jail to help thwart any future crimes.
14. Should we lock up "slow" or "mentally challenged" people? I'm not referring to handicapped people, but the ones that are just obviously and significantly slower than the norm. There are several in my own tank that I will talk about later. One is in trouble because he sold some stolen items for a "friend" at a pawn shop, but this guy honestly didn't think he was doing anything wrong. This question should get some interesting responses. (Editor's note - at first I thought he/they were asking if we should lock people up BECAUSE they were slow, but upon further thought, it appears they are asking if someone that got taken advantage of or didn't know any better should be locked up. Obviously this wouldn't work or everyone that got arrested would claim they were "slow")
OK, the first 14 questions were from others (ok, I can't lie, #6 was mine). There is my big thought provoking question though.
15. How do I approach the subject of my criminal record when I date in the future? I am 37 years old, divorced and have no kids. I have had two relationships already where it has been an issue. In the first one which was about two years ago I didn't tell the girl anything. We weren't too serious about things, but serious enough that when she did find out (on the internet) it was a huge problem. We broke up. Then we got back together a week later. Then we ultimately broke up for good about a month later. Overall the whole thing lasted maybe three months. Thank goodness I didn't like her too much anyway.
Relationship number two started last June. I tried to be up front about my record in this one and I thought that I had done a decent job. About three weeks prior to my incarceration this person broke up with me. I was definitely serious in this relationship and it has been tough to deal with.
So specific questions:
1) When is the appropriate time to first bring it up?
2) How detailed should I be about it first?
3) Any suggestions?
I already know the obvious...such as "if it was meant to be then she won't care" or "you will know when the time is right to share this information with her" or "if she breaks up with you then it's her loss"...that stuff is great and all, but it's too cliche. I think that by having pat answers to the above questions is the correct path to go down. Maybe after this is all over we can all start a match.com for prisoners.